When the calendar turns to November, many people turn to thoughts of family gatherings and the holiday season. For me, the calendar transition marks the start of “November Rain season.”
Since the song “November Rain” by Guns N’ Roses was released it has been my go-to song when I am going through a hard time. My college suite mates were so aware of this that when I was listening to it on repeat for a class assignment they planned an intervention.
One portion of the lyrics that particularly resonated with me is:
Do you need some time on your own?
Do you need some time all alone?
Ooh, everybody needs some time on their own
Ooh, don't you know you need some time all alone?
Taking time in quiet reflection is one of the tools in my toolbox I use to maintain my mental and physical health. For me, it is always best when it can happen in nature but taking time every day alone to reflect is one of my non-negotiable self-care practices.
This idea of needing some time alone to reset is something Boys and Girls Homes and Thomas Academy use with our youth through the idea of “time and space.” Youth can request “time and space” when they are feeling overwhelmed and need a moment to calm their emotions.
This is not unstructured time. There are specific techniques that the youth have the option of using in the space provided. In fact, there is a mindfulness room being developed to provide an even more therapeutic environment for this time in quiet reflection.
One of the primary ideas of the Waccamaw Way is providing children, youth and families with tools that they can take with them beyond campus to experience health, healing and hope throughout their life.
So in this “November Rain Season,” take some time in quiet reflection to maintain your mental health and well-being.
Melissa Hopkins is the Public Relations and Marketing Specialist at Boys and Girls Homes of North Carolina.